The body is biologically programed to make breast milk. When perinatal loss occurs, the body does not know that breast milk is no longer needed. Many people are surprised and even devistated when breast milk comes in a few days after loss. It can be an emotionally difficult experience. If and when your breast milk is produced, you can choose to supress the milk production (make it stop) or you may choose to donate your breast milk. There is not a right or wrong choice. What’s important is that the option you choose brings you peace.
Breast Milk Donation
Some individuals find donating breast milk a meaningful way to honor the memory of their baby. They find peace in knowing that their breast milk can be a gift to support other families. Donating breast milk can be a helpful stepping stone along the journey towards healing. If you are unsure whether you want to donate your milk, you may choose to store your breast milk while you take time to make a decision.
Personal Story of Milk Donation
Breast Milk Suppression
Donating breast milk is not always the best choice for everyone. Some individuals prefer to supress, or stop, the production of breast milk. Breasts milk supression can be achieved by doing the following:
- Wearing a firm bra day and night.
- Expressing small amounts of milk when breast feel painfully full.
- Only expressing enough milk to make the breasts feel more comfortable.
Breast Discomfort & Leaking
The breasts are often very tender when producing milk. Being gentle with the breasts and using ice packs or cabbage leaves can help with the pain. Over the counter medications such as ibuprofen may be helpful as well. Always check with your doctor before taking any additional medication. Other methods to decrease pain and tenderness include the following:
- Placing a cool compress on the breasts or in your bra. Avoid placing ice packs directly on the skin.
- Placing cabbage leaves in the bra cup.
Small amounts of breast milk may leak from the nipple. This may be embarrassing or distressing. Placing breast pads in the bra cup can help to prevent the leaking milk from being visible. Be sure to change the pads when they become too wet to prevent irritation to the skin.
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