Early pregnancy loss, often called ‘miscarriage,’ means that a pregnancy ends before 20-weeks gestation. While there are many risk factors for early pregnancy loss, such as genetics, chromosomal disorders, and recreational drug use, miscarriage can happen for no known reason. Pregnant persons often blame themselves for their early pregnancy loss even if they have ‘done everything right.’ Some people feel their body has betrayed them. Some experience depression and anger, while others may feel nothing. Everyone responds in their own unique way and in their own time. While everyone’s emotional response is unique, there are common ways that the body will physically respond to early pregnancy loss.
You can expect your body to react in the following way:
Vaginal bleeding similar to a menstrual flow
Cramping similar to menstrual cramping
Return of a menstrual flow within 4-5 weeks
Call your doctor if you experience any of the following:
Bleeding changes to bright red
Heavy bleeding (saturating a pad in an hour or less)
Fever
Foul smelling vaginal discharge
Changes in eating or sleeping patterns
Significant weight gain or loss
Lack of interest in daily activities
Thoughts of harming yourself
Your body will begin to heal from early pregnancy loss. In the early healing process, it’s important to follow your doctors’ instructions. They will tell you to avoid putting anything in your vagina (tampon, sexual intercourse, etc.) for at least two weeks. They may also give you activity restrictions. It can be helpful to ask your doctor to write everything down so you can remember later.
Emotional healing is possible after early pregnancy loss. It can be helpful to understand the emotions you may be feeling. Below are several links to learn more about perinatal grief and how to begin a journey towards healing.